Motivation

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Choking - Bad motivation

How do you motivate other people? How do you motivate yourself? To me it seems like the best way to do it through an emotional appeal. Its very very difficult to do something because “you ought to” or because “its whats logical (or rational)”. Nothing is truly rational anyway, but that is another story.

There are two kinds of emotional motivations: positive ones, and negative ones.

  • Negative motivations: do something or you will be sorry. You will be in pain. You will be mad. You will have missed out on a good opportunity. You will have failed. You will FEEL BAD.
  • Positive motivators: do something and you will be proud. You will feel happy. You will have won. You will laugh. You will have suceeded. You will FEEL GOOD.

Now, I like to use a little bit of both when it comes to motivating myself. ie – Study hard now Jason or else you will regret it when you’re totally lost in lecture next week. Also, if you study now, you won’t have to this weekend and you can party harder.

But when it comes to motivating others, I normally would stick with the positive one only. Because it’s ok when I make myself feel bad, but not when someone else does.

Yet people do this all the time. It’s called unsolicted warnings. “Take that job or you’ll be sorry”. Nobody wants to hear that.

If you want to motivate someone else, figure out what they really want in life, and show them how doing something will get to that. The rest should be simple. And if it doesn’t get them to what they really want in life, why are you trying to get them to do it in the first place?

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yellowj
yellowj

I think this is a kind of projection. A child’s parents believe that the child wants to have a great amount of financial security. It may be what the parent would want, but not necessarily what the child would want.

The first part of motivating someone is finding out what they REALLY WANT IN LIFE. I don’t think most parents get this far when they are pushing medical school on their children.

Andy
Andy

What kind of motivation do you think when those parents advise to their college kids: "You should get all As so that you will get into a good medical school.... 'cause being a doctor will make you happy and a good living."

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